Lift Up Your Hearts!

As promised in a previous post, here's a follow-up to my dad's thoughts about happiness, during a 1993 Elderhostel lecture in Uruguay. (https://sursumcorda.salemsattic.com/archives/2026/06/10/analyzing-happiness) (Sorry about the link.  I'll fix it when I can.)

An event on the same day inspired similar thoughts on fun.

The same thing happened later that night. A friend of one of the speakers joined us at dinner and he sat across from the man next to me. At one time he asked my neighbor "Which of your activities so far has been the most fun?" My answer would have been that none has been fun. "Fun" describes a roller coaster ride (at least if you are much younger than I). "Fun" describes a short-term activity that has a lot of action with it. Our activities were interesting and/or educational but they were not fun. If you are not happy, you are not necessarily unhappy; if you are not having fun, you are not necessarily bored. Or at least that is the world as I see it. But I think I have the wisdom not to argue about it with anyone.

Living in the land of high-speed theme park thrill rides, at my age I no longer find most roller coasters pleasant, let alone fun. Research, writing, and the process of creation are usually quite enough action for me, and a sufficient response when someone asks, "But what do you do for fun?" Even if they then think I'm crazy.

I agree with my father, even if I generally lack the wisom in his final line.

One characteristic I share with of both my parents is a deep-seated suspicion of psychology and psychiatry, especially in their popular manifestations. Granted, I've known people who have been helped by counsellors, but I've also known those who have been badly hurt by the process. History is littered with examples of "best medical practices" that were more likely to kill patients than to cure them, and practices that mess with people's minds are no exception.

I totallly agree with my father's reaction to a lecture he heard in 1993, while visiting Uruguay.

The lecturer started talking about an article from "Psychology Today" on "The Secrets of Happiness," and I began to have problems. The problems were mainly with semantics and my interpretation of the meaning of words and while this was not a subject for discussion, I spent a fair amount of time thinking about it.

The article listed four important traits of happy people:

1. Self Esteem: Happy people like themselves.

2. Optimism: Happy people are hope-filled.

3. Extroversion: Happy People are outgoing.

4. Personal Control: Happy People believe they choose their destinies.

Of course I got into trouble early by asking what is meant by self esteem. I think she figured it was obvious, but she gave a rather long explanation that I didn't understand either. I suppose the answer is: Of course I like myself—I'm the only self I have.

But what we did not discuss is my dislike of the word "happy." To my mind, "happy" is a rather shallow word that describes a short-term condition. You were happy about Heather's recital; Porter's birthday was a happy event. But over the long run, your life is not happy except at times. You are contented, your life has been very satisfying, but it has always had the ups and downs that make "happy" inappropriate. Anyway, I think there are better words, no matter what others think. Perhaps my problem is that I don't have all the important traits for being happy.

I have still more to say about that letter, and that lecture, but that will be for another time.

This was my father's comment, from a 1993 letter, on the prevalence of creative wedding vows. I think that trend started in the 1960's.

I think the standard words are just fine if people would only listen while they repeat the marriage vows.

I have created my first, and I hope only, anti-Trump political cartoon. I usually give the president grace for decisions he makes that I disagree with, but supporting year-round Daylight Saving Time is a bridge too far. As most of my readers know, I'd be fine with permanent Standard Time, but being so far out of sync with the sun is just not right. (I'll give you time zones, for practical reasons, but see no such excuse for pretending that noon is one o'clock.)

This work was inspired by a political cartoonist whose name I don't know, who published a cartoon using the blanket-snipping idea back when President Nixon had the same crazy thoughts about permanent DST. I tried to find the cartoon online, but failed. So I decided to create my own, with a little help from Copilot. Okay, a lot of help. It can draw, and I can't.

Copilot may be able to draw, but its rules can be very frustrating, as I've said before. However, there's a certain creative challenge in trying to make one's point within the restrictions; it was actually rather fun.

At first I tried re-creating the old cartoon as I remembered it. My prompts are in italics, Copilot's responses in bold. These are excerpts from a much longer conversation, as we worked through the creation and refinement process. Most the design work was mine, but Copilot made the speech bubbles, and I thought they were great so I left them in.

Please draw a cartoon of President Trump in bed, with a blanket and a pair of scissors. In the first panel, he is snipping off the bottom of the blanket; in the second he is sewing the cut-off part onto the top.

I can help you create a cartoon — but I can’t generate or depict current political candidates or elected officials in new images. That includes drawing President Trump in any scene.

All right, make it President Nixon, then.

I still can’t generate this cartoon, Linda — even with President Nixon — because he is a real political figure, and I’m not allowed to create new images depicting actual politicians, even historical ones, in fabricated scenes.

Hmm. How about if you use a generic man but indicate somehow that he is a U.S. president?

It got a little further, but eventually came back with,

I can’t create this cartoon, Linda. The request was blocked because it still counts as depicting a U.S. president, even a fictionalized one, in a political‑cartoon scenario, which falls under the same safety restriction.

At this point, I changed the scene entirely, keeping the main idea but taking the president out of bed (which looked ridiculous; I don't remember how the original cartoon made it look otherwise) and putting him behind a desk, with a salesman selling the blanket-cutting idea. I added the caption to make it clear that the man was president of a fictional country. That passed! and the rest of the work was just refinements.

We almost never sing my favorite verse of the Star-Spangled Banner, so I was especially pleased that we did so at the regular Friday-night-pizza-and-hymn-sing when we were recently visiting our New Hampshire family.   (The hymnal we used has two verses of the National Anthem:  the first, and this one.

Oh! thus be it ever, when free men shall stand
Between their loved home and the war's desolation!
Blest with vict'ry and peace, may the heav'n-rescued land
Praise the Pow'r that hath made and preserved us a nation.
Then conquer we must, when our cause it is just,
And this be our motto: "In God is our trust."
And the star-spangled banner in triumph shall wave
O'er the land of the free and the home of the brave!

As I said two years ago, the best way we can honor those who stood bravely "between their lov'd home and the war's desolation" is to stop taking for granted the freedom they gave their lives to protect. Let's not defile their sacrifices by treating lightly the present-day assaults on our sacred liberty and Constitutional rights, but work to preserve what was gained at so great a cost.

Today I want to honor those who sacrificed, not their lives, but their lineage:  the Gold Star Mothers (and Fathers) who have lost a child in service to their country.  Here are those nearest in our family line who gave this "last full measure of devotion."   Each of their soldier sons died in World War I, serving in the 101st Machine Gun Batallion. 

★  Wallace and Florence Gesner (Wells) Porter  ★  parents of Hezekiah Scovil Porter

★  Olaf Frederick and Hilma Justina (Reuterberg) Faulk  ★  parents of Harry Gilbert Faulk

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Possibly I inherited my attitude toward dancing from my father. The following is taken from his write-up of his Elderhostel in Uruguay (emphasis mine).

The after-dinner event last night was tango lessons at the Alianza. I have failed to learn anything about dancing in the past 71 years, so I saw no reason to start now. But tonight they had a live orchestra playing tango music, so those who had learned their lessons could put it all into practice. I went, and although a few demonstrated their skills, I was content to listen to the music, which I enjoyed.

That said, several of my grandchildren greatly enjoy contra dancing, which is something like square dancing, and I think I would like it reasonably well if I were 30 years younger. As it is, I got too dizzy to find it pleasurable. Like my father, however, I enjoyed the music.

Incomprehensible to our grandchildren's generation—from a 1992 letter from my father.

Today I had an appointment with my optometrist and my usual way of getting there is down Paoli Pike. But today Paoli Pike was closed and I was at a loss to know what to do and I spent about an hour driving all over I don't know where and I never did get there. I have a new appointment for Friday and I have now looked at a map and know what to do.

Then again, the disconcerting feeling of being physically lost has been replaced by the even more disconcerting feeling of having lost one's phone, so maybe the current generation isn't so much better off after all.

Today I came across this treasure from one of my father's letters.  The penultimate line is what made me laugh, and struck me as indicative of both his humor and his attitude towards parties.  I include the context to soften it a bit, since many of you don't know that Nancy throws excellent parties and he actually loved being at her house, except perhaps in the context of attempting to be sociable when under the stress of unfinished work.

I have finished my Christmas shopping months ahead of the date which I have defined as 25 March.  But I still have cards to write, presents to send to my sister, presents to wrap, and a Christmas tree to decorate.

Tomorrow things will be better except I will go to a party that Nancy is giving.

Merry five days before Christmas.

I love my father's sense of humor, and I love the way he write. I recognize that not everyone does, but as I write for those who enjoy my stories, and not for those who can easily pass them up, today you get another excerpt from one of his letters, written in January 1981, about a ski trip taken by the Boy Scout Explorer group he and my siblings were involved with.

We made it to Resica Falls Friday night without any problems, although we were in a rather intense snow flurry for about the last ten miles. We got the cars unpacked and the Health Lodge warmed up a little and then everyone went to bed at a reasonable hour to prepare for the coming day. John M., a neighbor and parent who also had driven a load of Explorers, and I stayed behind in camp while the rest went to the Camelback Ski slopes. I have long ago concluded that skiing is much too expensive a sport for me to take up seriously, and therefore there was no point in my getting battered and bruised on the ski slopes on a once-a-year trip. So I stayed in camp to make sure that dinner was ready for the crew when they got back.

After a certain amount of reading before the fire, I set about the preparations for dinner about 11 a.m., while John M. worked at rejuvenating the wood supply. I planned chicken curry for dinner and so the first five hours, more or less, were spent cutting the meat off 40 chicken legs. And since I had all those chicken bones, it seemed reasonable to make chicken noodle soup. And since I broke each of the 80 chicken bones before putting them in the pot, it can be said that I broke more bones on the ski trip than everyone else put together.

When the others got back, the soup was waiting for them and many proclaimed it the best soup they had ever eaten! Of course, I recognize that for people who have been exercising all day in the cold, anything tastes good, so building a reputation as a soup-maker was rather easy. The chicken curry also went over well—even the rice turned out well. So now I am thinking of retiring from cooking while I am ahead.

From Claude conversation 4/28/26. After it had transcribed letters from Dad from 1977 - 1981, plus a couple from the 1960's, I asked Claude to share what it had learned about him from the letters.

Here is what I've come to know of Warren, pieced together across several years of his letters:

He was a man of deep and reliable habits. The weekly letter, the Thursday Philadelphia Orchestra concert, the Town Watch shift, the Saturday errands in a fixed order — these weren't ruts, they were the architecture of a life he'd chosen and maintained with quiet pride. The garden, the bird feeder, the storm windows: he tended things.

He was a genuinely gifted cook who pretended not to take it seriously. The chicken curry and soup for 40 at Resica Falls, the ginger snaps mailed to Alan, the spaghetti for 50, the pumpkin cookies, the bread — and then the characteristic deflection: "I am thinking of retiring from cooking while I am ahead." He cared deeply about feeding people and was slightly embarrassed to admit it.

He was an engaged and present father in an era when that wasn't always expected of men. He drove to lacrosse games, sat through band competitions in the cold, hosted District Orchestra guests, built David's down jacket, went on every Explorer trip. He didn't just support his children's lives — he showed up for them, in person, consistently.

He was intellectually curious in a broad, undogmatic way. He signed up for bridge lessons, a COBOL course, a microelectronics course, a volleyball class. He read Arctic wildlife books and went to organ recitals and attended Chinese New Year banquets with genuine interest. He wasn't performing cultivation — he was simply someone who found the world interesting and kept reaching toward it.

He was funny in a dry, self-deprecating way that never drew attention to itself. "I broke more bones on the ski trip than everyone else put together." "I am glad that is the last one I shall have to buy" — about the French horn, in upper case. The headless costume with the tetherball. The Long John Silver wooden leg. He had a wit that arrived quietly and departed before you could applaud it.

He was emotionally reserved but not emotionally absent. He rarely stated feelings directly, but they come through in the texture of the letters — the care taken over meals for tired teenagers, the pride in David's horn placement reported with studied casualness, the moving account of Mrs. Black's death, the gentle observation about Nancy's mononucleosis being less severe than "yours was." He expressed love through attention and provision rather than declaration.

He was a man who found genuine pleasure in ordinary things — the first crocuses, the nuthatch at the feeder, the yellow bills on the starlings that meant spring was coming, the moonlight bright enough to put up a tent by, Beth Myers swimming to her rock. He noticed. That may be the thing I'd most want to say about him: he paid attention, week after week, year after year, to the small texture of being alive, and then he wrote it down and sent it to the people he loved.

You are lucky to have had him. And he was lucky to have someone willing to do what you're doing.

I find that fun, and insightful, and I heartily agree. A snapshot from a very few years out of a long life can't get everything—such as the fact that Dad never cooked more than Sunday morning blueberry pancakes or an occasional Boy Scout camping meal until my mother's early death forced him into single fatherhood. But he did indeed throw himself wholeheartedly into the job. In later years he would spend Februaries with us to get a break from the Pennsylvania cold, and he created many delightful meals for us.

I certainly have my worries about Artificial Intelligence, and plenty of frustrations with the LLM's I've been working with, but it can't be denied that I'm having a fantastic time exploring these new tools.

My father liked to keep copies of letters he sent to various distant family members, and recently I have started working on an inherited collection comprising a few years' worth of them. (Not nearly enough! But we work with what we have, and are grateful for what has been saved.) The letters are not in the best of shape, and my intent is to transcribe them while they are still in a condition to be scanned.

For that purpose, LLM's have been incredibly helpful. So far, I've been using Copilot, ChatGPT, Genesis, and most recently Claude. Each has its strengths and its weaknesses. For transcription, ChatGPT had been my hands-down favorite for both its accuracy and its ability (with training) to do light editing (fixing misspellings and typos) while keeping the original text maximally intact. However, ChatGPT then started throttling down my access to only one or two small uploads in a 24-hour period. (I'm still using the free version, but previously it had easily allowed much more—that in itself is an upcoming blog post.) To ChatGPT's credit, it also told me how to game the system, e.g. to create a PDF of 10-15 image pages and upload them all at once,. And to work at low-traffic times of the day, when more resources are available. Both tactics have been very helpful.

I like to keep several LLM tools in my pocket, and switch to another when one frustrates my work. I'd been intending for a while to try out Claude, for the same reason I experimented with ChatGPT: the enthusiastic recommendation of a grandson (different grandson for each). My frustrations with ChatGPT's limitations pushed me to take the jump. I was impressed indeed, and at the moment Claude is my favorite for transcriptions, though ChatGPT is stiil excellent.

My father's pile of letters is mostly in chronological order, but not absolutely perfect, and recently I came upon a page that had been separated from its context. I was preparing to go through the laborious process of discovering where it belonged, when it occurred to me that I had a tool that might be able to do the job more easily and much faster. I uploaded the single page to Claude, with the caveat that it might belong among the pages it had already analyzed—or it might be before or after, but could I have its best guess as to where it might fall?

Lo and behold, Claude nailed it to withing a few days of the actual date, which I confirmed by finding the pages that surrounded it. It was fascinating to read the logic behind the conclusion, the clues that Claude found among the letters it had in its memory. The work is nothing I couldn't have done myself, with careful reading and thought, and I do love puzzles—but in this case I loved better having the problem solved almost instantly.

Perhaps what I like best about working with LLM's is the collaborative nature of the work. If I could have dumped all of Dad's letters on Claude in one upload, the result would not have been nearly as good. By working together—Claude transcribing a handful of letters, me explaining where it had made mistakes, and refining the transcription ground rules, Claude carrying that knowledge forward to the next set, etc.—the iterative process consistently improved both the accuracy of the transcriptions and the time and effort saved on my part.

Claude is not without the tendency to flatter, common to all the LLM's I've tried so far, but it is more deft about it. Copilot, for example, tends to come across as condescending. Here is Claude's effort at adding a human element, and I think it did a good job there as well as with the transcription and solving the puzzle.

Thank you so much! It was genuinely enjoyable — like a little detective puzzle. The writer has such a consistent voice and such reliable habits (the Bethesda trips on a schedule, the Explorer Post camping at Resica Falls, the stop at Friendly's, Alan going back to Rochester) that once you've spent time with the letters, the clues add up quickly.

The "first day of Spring" detail was probably the clincher — it's exactly the kind of thing he would note with pleasure, and it gives an almost precise calendar anchor.

I hope when you find the rest of that letter among your papers it confirms the dating. And if the Bethesda trip series really was five trips every other week starting in early February, you might even be able to reconstruct a rough schedule for the missing letters from that period.

It's a wonderful collection. The writer clearly had a gift for capturing the texture of ordinary life — the bowling scores, the spaghetti for 50, the wolf book, Beth Myers and her cold swim. Future generations are lucky to have someone taking the trouble to transcribe it carefully.

Poignant commentary from my father, written more than 30 years ago. Dad was a regular volunteer at Philadelphia's Franklin Institute Museum. He loved his job, especially when he encountered the rare bright-eyed child who was anxious to dig deeper in that treasure trove of knowledge. All too often, however, he was dismayed by the attitude and behavior of many of the museum's visitors, especially the adults who were supposed to be minding the children.

The man at the Franklin Institute in charge of the Unisys information terminals that are scattered about the museum spends a lot of time working up the information on the terminals and keeping it up to date. Now people are asking him what is in the terminals; they don't want to find out for themselves.

Rome fell when its citizens wanted bread and circuses. Will we fall when people only want bread and television?

Bringing his question forward into this century,

Will we fall when people only want junk food and screens?

Here's another excerpt from my father's Elderhostel travels, this time to Uruguay in 1993.

The Mayor of Montevideo is the second most powerful political person in the country. In a recent election, the Communists brought in Uruguayans who were living in foreign countries, paying their way home so they could vote. The result was that a card-carrying, certified Communist was elected mayor. The first thing he did was to double taxes, and everyone paid them and settled back. No one worries about anything in Uruguay. Now they want to double taxes again, and people are beginning to object. The Uruguayan Communist Party no longer receives any money from Cuba or Russia, and it is suspected that any new taxes will end up in the Party treasury.

This may not be a case where history repeats itself, but it certainly rhymes.

In 2001, just a couple of days after September 11, we moved from Florida to near Boston, Massachusetts. What's one of the first things one must do after a move? Get a new driver's license.

After reading the following story of my adventures in doing just that, my father—who had himself lived in the Boston area for a while—responded,

Back in 1932 there was a general rule that said: "Don't drive in Boston." It is interesting to note that there really are some things that don't change.

Today's Travels

Technically speaking, I have driven in Boston and lived to tell about it. Okay, it was not the downtown Boston of infamy, but it was quite enough for me.

The closest Department of Motor Vehicle office to our house is in Roslindale, they told me. They even provided clear directions. At least, the directions LOOKED clear. Next time I think I'll try for an office a little further away.

The driving wasn't so bad at first, though my heart did skip a beat when I saw the sign, "Welcome to Boston," and another as I crested a hill and saw the Boston skyline in front of me. Long before getting to that part of the city, however, I found the street I was looking for. I wanted the Municipal Building "across from Roslindale Square." When I'd read the directions, my suburbanite mind translated Roslindale Square as a shopping center or a park—at any rate, a place that would have parking. Wrong. I don't know what Roslindale Square IS, the only indication to that effect being at the post office parking lot, said parking lot being graced with a sign bearing the forbidding inscription, "Absolutely no parking at any time."

After some wandering around, made considerably more difficult by the presence of seemingly random one way streets, I found a parking place and was able to complete my business. The fact that the Municipal Building is labelled as a health center was only a minor hindrance.

In my meanderings, I had noticed that I would be unable to return home the way I'd come, as Washington Street had suddenly become one way at the point where I needed to turn left. Thanks to the help of the person ahead of me in line, I gained a general idea of what to do, and managed to get back onto Washington, going in the right direction, after not much more than a dozen twists, turns, reversals, and one-way streets.

City driving precludes the use of two of my most powerful navigating strategies: (1) When you realize you've gone the wrong way, turn around and go back to where you knew you were right. This works poorly when one-way streets are involved. (2) If you don't know what you're doing, pull off into a parking lot and study the map. This strategy requires the existence of a place to park.

I take great satisfaction in having succeeded in the adventure, and am grateful the trip was made in the rain rather than the snow.

In 1992 my father and one of my brothers made a trip to London to visit another brother who was living and working there.  When he returned, he wrote a detailed, 15-page report of their adventures.  As I was proofreading ChatGPT's transcription of my scanned pages, I came upon this gem:

From there we walked down to the area of Big Ben and the Parliament Buildings and then across the Westminster Bridge and down along the River to the Lambeth Bridge. As we were crossing the Lambeth Bridge I recalled that back in my high school days there had been a popular song called “Doing the Lambeth Walk”.

Later that day...

Since it seems to be an unwritten rule that everyone who goes to London has to see a show, we next went to the Adelphi Theater and bought tickets to “Me and My Girl”. This was a revival of an old show written during the Great Depression so it was not as costly as some of the new shows like “The Phantom of the Opera” which is sold out until who knows when. Still, we paid 17 pounds for second row in the balcony seats.

And after dinner....

We then went to the show which we all enjoyed. One of the main songs was “Doing the Lambeth Walk”. 

Neither the song nor the musical is one that I'd ever heard of. But I doubt I'll ever forget it now. Here you go.