Modesty: propriety in dress, speech, or conduct (Merriam-Webster)
It’s an old-fashioned word, uncommon in our hyper-sexualized, push-the-envelope, anything-goes culture. It even has negative connotations, as when it is associated with oppression of women in Islamic countries, or with certain Christian circles in which women, even young girls at play, wear only long dresses.
But it’s a good word, and a good concept. We’re not meant to share all that we are with all-and-sundry. Merriam-Webster’s other definition, freedom from conceit or vanity, gives a hint as to one of its benefits: modesty focuses our attention away from ourselves.
Perhaps because of the extremes, discussions and practices of modesty almost always focus on matters of dress and behavior: physical modesty. To our great loss, we have largely ignored what I will call soul modesty. What is blogging but baring our souls to anyone with an Internet connection? What is Reality TV but a striptease in which hope of financial gain entices the few to allow their emotions, weaknesses, and character flaws to be exposed to the ogling many? How can the reporter’s demand that a grieving mother tell the world how she feels about her child’s murder be considered anything other than verbal rape?
Lest you think this is not a problem if one stays out of the public eye, how much do you know about what happens in your children’s schools, Sunday school classes, day care, and other activities? As a school volunteer as well as a parent, I came to realize that our young children are frequently subjected to emotional intrusion that, were it physical, would have a teacher out on the street in a heartbeat. We take great care to teach our children about private parts of their bodies, and how to recognize and report “uncomfortable touches,” but don’t give them the tools to detect and deflect uncomfortable questions or manipulative exercises.
What puzzles me the most is that I find as little respect for soul modesty among those who prize physical modesty as I do in the general community. It is particularly prevalent in churches, where community, fellowship, and bonding are often forced, rather than being allowed to grow organically from shared life and work. I had one friend from a former church—a dear, self-sacrificing lady—who not only shared the most intimate details of her own life but pressed others to reveal themselves similarly—all the while thinking she was “just being friendly.” It was uncomfortable enough talking with her, but downright scary to see her apply the same approach to children. More than that, she saw it as her duty to be intrusive in this way, and was hurt when others were not similarly “friendly” to her. And she was hardly unique. It must be difficult for churches to discern how to be inquisitive enough to appear friendly to some people while not driving others away.
I’ve been to more than one church gathering where crowd dynamics and peer pressure have induced people to make revelations that I’m certain they regretted the morning after, if not immediately. I mean, what sadist dreamt up the idea of asking, “What was your most embarrassing moment?” as an icebreaker? To this day I’m embarrassed for some of the things others confessed. There’s a reason confessional booths are small.
Although they may differ on the particulars, most people will agree that when it comes to physical modesty, relationship and circumstance should guide our behavior. That slinky nightgown is appropriate to wear for my husband, but not for my neighbor. Family members may see us in our underwear, but that’s not how we dress for grocery shopping. Doctors have privileges with our bodies that almost no one else does.
It’s time we took as much care for our souls.
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Many people have, at one time or another, described their jobs as "shovelling manure." Last week, this was literally true for me. A local mushroom farm sells their leftover compost by the truckload for a you-can't-afford-to-pass-this-up price. Our neighbor has a pickup truck. Hence the need for an extra shower that day.
Changing lives one soda bottle at a time: Filipino entrepreneur Illac Diaz brings light to darkened homes.
My afflication has a name: earworm. According to this WebMD article: They bore into your head. They won't let go. There's no known cure. Earworms can attack almost anyone at almost any time. More prosaically, it's "stuck song syndrome," a song or song fragment that takes over your brain and will not go away.
On Sunday, our otherwise wonderful pastor, in an otherwise wonderful sermon, reiterated his determination to have us sing simple "praise choruses" at all our services, even the most traditional, so that they will stick in our heads and we'll have them handy in times of need. I've complained about this before, because what is apparently comfort to him is torture to me.
Stuck song syndrome annoyed, frustrated, and irritated women significantly more than men. And earworm attacks were more frequent—and lasted longer—for musicians and music lovers. Slightly neurotic people also seemed to suffer more.
Well, there you have it. Female, music lover, and slightly neurotic. My own perfect storm.
With a hat tip to Liz, I pass on this Salon article by Kate Fridkis, A Home-Schooler Goes to College. I read the article, and thought it well-written and an accurate description of some of the shocks that await an unschooled child who goes off to college. I thought it might be an encouragement to homeschoolers, and help others understand them a little better. But after reading the comments below the article, I'm no longer sure. It's almost always a mistake for me to read the comments to major blogs or newspaper articles: they generally make it very difficult for me to remain in my little bubble of isolated naïveté, where people actually care about listening to and trying to understand those who are different from themselves.
Our grandchildren are growing so fast. Joy (seven months) has progressed to crawling, sitting, creeping, and now pulling herself up since we saw her in August. Joseph (15 months) clearly shows that he understands much, and is beginning to communicate, in three languages. The older children also seem to have changed significantly in the two months since we were last together. How miserable it must have been to be a long-distance grandparent in the days before blog posts, Skype, videos, and digital cameras! I suck in newly-uploaded media like a camel at an oasis.
Tomato with a capital T and that rhymes with P and that stands for.... Here's good news for gardeners with young boys.
A team of Finnish researchers found that sprinkling tomatoes with human urine mixed with wood ash was the ultimate eco-friendly fertiliser. It worked just as well with cucumber, corn, cabbage and other crops. The mixture produced bumper harvests when compared to untreated plants. ... The university study ... found using nitrogen-rich urine does not carry any risk of disease.
Hmmm. Two young grandsons whose home is heated by a wood fire. And I thought their record-breaking harvest this year was due to their new watering schedule.
We had a taste of autumn a week ago, but after a weekend that would have inspired the original Noah—nearly doubling the rainfall record set in 1954—summer is back. The foretaste is a promise of more pleasant days to come, however. October is a lovely month in so many places!
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There is no way I'm going to write this without sounding corny or superficial, but I'm doing it anyway. I caught a glimpse of God's love (and sense of humor) today.
Let me begin by noting that the event itself was, on God's scale of things, and even on the human scale, absolutely trivial. But any human lover knows how much love can be expressed through trivia. More disturbingly, I've experienced having trivial victories followed quickly by tragic defeats. But it is what it is, and worth reporting.
To simplify the story, there's a store at which we get what can amount to a very significant discount by using a particular credit card. The catch is that we never know what the discount will be until the purchase has been made. I've seen discounts of greater than 50%, and yet on some items it may be only a few percent, or nothing at all. Shopping at this store is my substitute for playing the state lottery: it's a thrill to "win big," but there's no point in buying something that you wouldn't pay full price for, because you might have to. Of course, you can always cancel the transaction, but I hate asking the checkout clerks to do that.
So here's what happened today. There's an item I wanted to buy, but there's no way I could justify paying full price. Still, I wanted it badly enough to grit my teeth and face cancelling the transaction just to learn what the discount would be. So this morning, on my way from the church where I had a commitment to sing, to the church where I had a commitment to get a flu shot, I stopped at the store.
As I pulled into the parking lot, I realized that I was fretting, getting tense over the idea that there might be little or no discount on this item that I really wanted, and worse, over the potential embarrassment of having to tell the clerk that despite having wasted his time and that of those behind be in line, I didn't want to make the purchase after all. The morning's excellent sermon on worry, however, was not entirely lost on me. The featured text, Philippians 4:4-8 ("Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God") is one of my favorite Bible passages. So, thankful for the opportunity, I made my requests and relaxed. I know, I know. It's trivia. And most of you will have no idea why the thought of returning a purchase is so stressful for me. But it is, and I know some of my readers will nod their heads with understanding.
I never did find out what the discount would have been. But not because I wimped out at the last minute.
Having found the correct department, I pulled out my notes to ascertain the correct model number. To my dismay I realized that I had neglected to write down that crucial piece of information. Ah, not to worry; I was pretty sure I could figure it out. Sure enough, I picked out what looked to be the right model, and if I'd had any doubts, they were removed when I noticed that this model, out of all the models and manufacturers on display, was the only one on sale, and the cost was just thirty percent of the regular price. A seventy percent discount! Our credit card at its best is never that good. I stood there in awe for a few minutes; when I came back to earth, I bought two!
No, it wasn't anything earth-shattering, or even important. But it was the unmistakable touch of a lover's hand that says, "I am here"; the completely unexpected, simple gift that proclaims, "I love you." And maybe, perhaps, "You can trust me through the dark and doubtful times, also."
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For three years I have been considering joining the crowd that participates in Conversion Diary's "7 Quick Takes Friday." It's a handy way to gather together random ideas that are cluttering up the backblog and/or are too short to make into posts of their own, and because it links back to the other participants, I get involved in a larger community. Which is probably why it took an introvert like me three years to take the plunge.
We've been watching How to Look at and Understand Great Art from The Great Courses (formerly The Teaching Company). I'll review it after we have completed the course, but already we are thrilled. I don't know how anyone can graduate from high school without this kind of knowledge, but I did—and I was valedictorian.
Do you know how Google Translate works? It's very clever. I would never have guessed, but thanks to the folks at Little Pim, I know there's magic involved—well, Harry Potter, anyway.
Rather than try and do any actual translating itself, Google Translate figures that someone else has probably already done the hard work for you. Google uses its incredible computing power to trawl through the vast swathes of human translation work, and pairs your English sentence with a human-translated equivalent. ... Whenever you ask Google to translate a sentence, it draws on vast archives of translated text, including everything the UN and its agencies have ever done in writing in six official languages. ... This is why books like Harry Potter are so useful. With translations in 67 languages, Harry Potter provides an excellent frame of reference for Google Translate to draw upon. While there may be no recorded history of direct translation between Hebrew and Welsh, by running both translations through the hub of the original English text, Google can attempt a direct translation.
I took the Front Porch Republic out of my feedreader's A-list because I simply couldn't keep up. Fortunately, they send me occasional e-mails with their top posts, so I didn't miss Allan Carlson's The Family Centered Economy.
American writer and social critic Wendell Berry was born just three years before Russian agricultural economist Alexander Chayanov died in the Soviet Gulag; Russian-American sociologist Pitirim Sorokin was born at the same time as Chayanov but outlived him by 30 years. The insights of these three men lead Allan Carlson to suggest seven social changes that are sure to inspire and infuriate. Who (besides me) would have thought that the secret to a healthy economy would involve homemaking, homeschooling, micro-business, small-scale farming, breastfeeding, and large families?
My family is tired of hearing me preach about the wonders a nightly xylitol rinse has done for my teeth and gums. I find the dental profession in general remarkably incurious about this inexpensive and pleasant dental health aid, but here is some encouraging news, in both the linked article and other articles under "Related Stories." The stories are depressingly old (2007/2008), but this paper says that the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry has supported "the use of xylitol as part of a preventive strategy aimed specifically at long term caries pathogen suppression and caries ... reduction in higher risk populations" since 2010. Ask your dentist.
Last Saturday we enjoyed the Orlando Philharmonic Orchestra's season-opening concert, Puccini é Verdi, a presentation of excerpts from the two composers' great works. Music Director Christopher Wilkins certainly knows how to draw a sell-out crowd to begin the season with great enthusiasm: feature the University of Central Florida Chorus and the Florida Opera Theatre Chorus and you're bound to draw many of their friends as well.
What impressed me the most about the production was how well it was staged. The stage was structured so that the soloists, rather than waiting their turns stiffly on front-and-center chairs, made their entrances through the orchestra as they were singing. It wasn't a complicated setup, and added much to the effect.
Crime is down, way down. Everyone from Free-Range Kids to the New York Times to our local police department is telling us so. Why, then, is fear up? Here's my take on the subject:
Certainly the relentless, sensationalist, sponsor-driven news coverage of any tragedy, no matter how remote, is to blame. Even worse, however, are regular television shows. (Books, too, but TV is more graphic.) Face it: a kid walking safely to school does not make for an exciting story. So what do we see? Lots and lots of crime. Kidnappings, murders, rapes, dismemberments, terrorism, torture, lots of car chases and bullets spraying. Twisted neighbors, abusive family members, corrupt cops.
We know it’s fiction, but the sounds, sights, and terror have an impact on our brains we cannot control. Bare statistics about crime are no match for the horrors that our gut knows surround us—because we have seen them.
What do you think?
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On the way home from church this morning, we stopped briefly at one of our local health food stores. Yes, I said "one of." Amazingly, we have three health food stores within a five-mile radius of our house. This one is run by Seventh-Day Adventists, so it's closed on Saturdays but has the advantage of being open when we drive by early on Sunday mornings.
The cashier rang up our purchase of almonds and local, free-range eggs. I did a double-take when she called out the total: $9.11.
This morning the Prayers of the People were not the usual ones from the Prayer Book, but understandably had a special theme. In addition to prayers for first responders, servicemen, and all victims of terrorism, our heartfelt cry went out through the following:
O God, the Father of all, whose Son commanded us to love our enemies: Lead them and us from prejudice to truth: deliver them and us from hatred, cruelty, and revenge; and in your good time enable us all to stand reconciled before you, through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
and
Eternal God, in whose perfect kingdom no sword is drawn but the sword of righteousness, no strength known but the strength of love: So shower us with your Spirit, that all peoples may be gathered under the banner of the Prince of Peace, as children of one Father; to whom be dominion and glory, now and for ever. Amen.
In response to the attacks of September 11, 2001, composer Robert Kerr wrote the following anthem for the Orlando Deanery Boychoir. Later, we had the privilege of singing it ourselves, when Rob was our choir director. Here's a version sung this year by the Boychoir and Girls Choir.
Lord, grant us wisdom in our hour of need.
And give us vision, that we clearly see,
Your loving nature, Your mercies' might.
Bring us from darkness in to Your light.
Lord, touch our nation with Your healing hand.
And give us comfort o'er all the land.
Reveal Yourself to us and make us whole,
Reside within each heart and soul.
For there are battles we must fight,
And stand with courage for what is right.
Against the evil which infects us still,
Lord, give us conviction to know Your will.
Please help the strong to defend the weak,
But not in anger or revenge to seak,
So through Your justice let conflict cease.
Oh, unify us, and bring us peace.
For there are battles we must fight,
And stand with courage for what is right.
Against all evil, sin, and wrong,
Give us conviction to carry on!
Alleluia!
Lord, bless our soldiers across the sea,
And help them to set more people free.
And in their hearts, may they have pride to sing,
"God bless America,"
God bless America, Let freedom ring!
Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves. ... Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. ... Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. ... Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge. ... Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (From Romans 12)
And may your every goodbye leave an impression worthy of being your loved ones' last memory of you.
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If you can read this, thank a teacher.
I've seen it on bumper stickers for years, and just today at the bottom of my Penzey's Spices receipt. Only now did I finally wake up to the outrageous insult implied by that platitude.
With all due respect to teachers, of which there are some who are great and many, many more who do their jobs very well, how is it that we presume that a child, who requires only a reasonably supportive environment to learn to eat, to crawl, to walk, to understand, to talk, to love, to manipulate his environment—in short to acquire the essential skills of a lifetime in just a few years—how is it that we presume he cannot learn to read—a minor skill compared with all he has already learned—unless someone teaches him?
That's crazy talk.
I'm grateful for all who are willing to share their knowledge with others, and especially for those who make the sharing enjoyable. I suspect that those who do best, however, are the ones who realize they are not teaching so much as facilitating a child's natural learning.
But that turns out to be much too big an issue to write about just because I was annoyed by a bumper sticker, when I'm surrounded by vacation detritus, my husband is hungry, and I haven't yet managed that shower I promised myself after walking four miles in the 95 degree heat....
Here's a quick post because the article frustrated me and I need an excuse to get off my feet for a few minutes.
For the record, I know that New Worship Conference Seminar: How To Talk To Note Readers is humor, and it did make me laugh. But it perpetuates an unfair and inaccurate stereotype that pains me. (Unless it's my over-worked legs and back.)
A note reader is someone with formal musical training who can look at a page covered with lines and dots, and actually sing it or play it. Note readers aren’t normal humans. Unlike me, they actually studied music in high school and college, whereas I didn’t have time to learn things like scales and signatures; I was too busy smoking weed and listening to Revolution #9 on the Beatles White Album....
First, the kind of "note reader" he's talking about can't just look at a note and hit the right pitch. Okay, the instrumentalists can, but the human voice is a different kind of instrument and rare is the person with the ear to look at a note on the page and sing the correct pitch.
As for what I think he means—that is, being able to look at the patterns of notes in a song written in standard musical notation and know when to go up, when to go down, and whether to do so by a little step or a big leap—I learned that, plus a lot more, in elementary school, back in the 60's. Ordinary, small-town, public elementary school, not high school, not college. So if time signatures, notes, keys, and dynamic markings are foreign concepts in our culture, the first thing I'd ask about is what is going on in our schools.
You may have note readers on your worship team. You can recognize them because they usually have pocket protectors....
I know, I know. It's humor. But it reminds me of jokes about women drivers, or [insert ethnic group of your choice], which we have rightly come to recognize as in poor taste, at least.
(H/T Jon—thanks, my feet are feeling better now.)
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Welcome home, Atlantis. A moment of silence, please, to mark the end of an era.
No more will we step out our front door to marvel at the soaring arc of light as a space shuttle climbs into orbit. No more will our whole bodies thrill to the iconic double sonic boom as it returns to earth. I'm glad that this morning we were able to hear the boom-boom one final time.
Listening to the prepared statements and commentary on the television reminded me of a funeral—or worse, of the kind of laudatory speeches you hear from organizations when a long-term, once-valued employee retires or takes another job and everyone tries to pretend that his departure was voluntary.
What would John F. Kennedy, Lyndon Johnson, and Nikita Kruschev think to know that for an American to get to the International Space Station he must now be transported there by the Russians?
I like to hope that the drive, energy, enthusiasm, sacrifice, daring, and sense of adventure that powered America's space program still exists, flowing into other, less visible but perhaps even more productive, channels. I look around and am not convinced, but I'd be glad to hear of examples, especially from the young people who are almost always the beating heart of such endeavors. Not that a full-range of age and experience is not also necessary—and I'm still eager to hear more of this hopeful story of a 95-year-old visionary from the Occasional CEO.
Where I see such dedication and enthusiasm these days has a decidedly non-technological bent, even though the science-and-engineering types are well represented. I see it in homeschoolers, homebirthers, midwives, alternative medicine, radical homemakers, large families, family farms, local and sustainable agriculture, heritage breeders, small businesses—in short, among the outliers, rather than mainstream America. But perhaps that's due to my own skewed persepective.
Where do you see life, drive, commitment, and energy these days?
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It's a good thing I have an economist for a husband, because ever since I weaseled my way out of a mandatory high school economics class, the subject has confused me no end. (I took advanced physics instead, but that's not helping either.)
One of my little side pleasures on visits to Switzerland has been the purchase of Swiss Army knives. So far, just the little keychain versions, but I've bought three of them (at different times, and from two different stores). For years I had had one that I liked a lot, but it had lost parts and eventually become lost itself, so I was delighted to be able to replace it.
The second purchase was because I live in fear that the TSA will take the first one away from me, some day when I forget to take it off my keys before attempting to pass through airport security.
The third was a birthday gift for a grandson.
For each of these knives I paid some 15 Swiss francs, about $18.50 at today's exchange rates (which are considerably worse than when I actually bought the knives, but that's another story). I thought the price was reasonable, and paid with no regrets.
Then two days ago I happened to be wandering through the sporting goods section of our local Target store. It's a department I hardly ever see, but I was looking for fishing line. (Deleted: story too long to bother with, having nothing to do with fishing.) Lo and behold, there was The Knife: not some cheap Chinese rip-off, but the genuine, Victorinox, made-in-Switzerland Real Thing. Selling for $9.99!
How do they do that? How can they cart it all the way from Switzerland to the U.S. and sell it for not much more than half the Swiss price, expecting to make a profit in the process?
Porter suggests that the Swiss respect small businesses and won't allow a big-volume company to undercut the local knife stores. I can see that as a good thing. But I still wonder how much profit Victorinox must normally make in Switzerland that they can afford to sell in volume to Target at a price that allows Target to profit on a resale of $9.99.
So ... a word to Noah: Your Swiss Army knife is the Real, Real Thing. It came from a wonderful little knife store in Basel. If the TSA ever takes it away from you, try telling your parents you really ought to pay a visit to your Birthday Buddy, Joseph. But if that fails, maybe they'll fund a trip to Target.
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One of my regular walks takes me across a small bridge, under which flows a stream. This stream can be a pathetic trickle or a rushing torrent, depending on the recent weather. Yesterday we had a good deal of rain, so today I was treated to a lively, chattering stream that flowed and leapt with great enthusiasm.
The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.
In the time of the writer of Psalm 23, sheep (and therefore shepherds) must have had quite a different persepective on water. He's clearly praising the still waters (and God for providing them), but when I think of still water, I picture something stale, flat, and unprofitable: fetid ponds, or the unpalatable alternative to mineral water that Swiss restaurants will serve you if you make the mistake of asking for water that's not fizzy instead of for that blessed, delicious Swiss Hahnewasser. (Tap water, that is. Switzerland has wonderful drinking water, and it flows freely in the city fountains, yet restaurants will charge you an arm and a leg for something flat and boring unless you know the secret password. Remember it: Hahnewasser.)
Still water smells of death and decay. Moving, flowing, leaping streams project life, health, freedom. Why was the psalmist so happy with God for leading him to still waters?
I guess I'll have to learn a lot more about a shepherd's life in ancient Israel to be able to answer that.
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Our library finally came through with Introverts in the Church, into which I will dive as soon as I finish the other two books I’m currently reading. I wonder if it will touch on the question that came to me while I was waiting:
Could Jesus have been an introvert?
Going with the standard definitions of extroversion as having one’s energy renewed by the presence of other people, and introversion as having one’s energy renewed by solitude, it makes no sense that God—the source of all energy and in no need of renewal—could be considered either. But in taking on human form, he took on human limitations, and just as he was male instead of female, had brown eyes instead of blue, and spoke Aramaic rather than Chinese, he was most likely one or the other. I think there’s plenty of Biblical evidence to suggest that he may have required solitude for refreshment and renewal, especially in times of stress and after being with large crowds. For example:
- Luke 5:16 But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.
- Matthew 14:13 (after the beheading of John the Baptist) When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place….
- Matthew 14: 23 (after the feeding of the 5000): After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray.
- Mark 1:35 Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.
- Luke 4:42 At daybreak, Jesus went out to a solitary place.
Pressed in on all sides by crowds, exhausting himself with teaching and healing, when Jesus needed rest he sought lonely places and the company of his Father alone.
Sounds like an introvert to me.
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This morning I was deep in prayer, as I often am, for our grandchildren. (Read the rest of this post before you think that sounds oh-so-spiritual.) Because our side of the family has contributed a tendency for nearsightedness to their gene pool, one of my requests was that their eyes continue to be clear and sharp and healthy.
So far, so good.
“But what about their ears?” I suddenly thought, remembering our nephew who has a hearing loss.* So I prayed for their ears.
“But what about their sense of smell?” I once worked with a guy who had lost his as an infant. So I prayed for all of their senses.
It’s never bad to pray, but can you see the death spiral I was falling into? What pitiful faith, and what a horrible view of God, as if he were just waiting to pounce on my mistakes and omissions, like the triumphant victor in a chess match:
“Checkmate! You prayed for his eyes, but neglected his ears, so I think I’ll make him deaf. And while I’m at it, maybe lame as well. And it’s all your fault! When you see him struggling with his little crutch, like Tiny Tim, remember that if you‘d only prayed properly, he would be running joyfully over the hill!”
Pitiful. Blasphemous, really.
That God wants us to pray—with specific requests, for occasions of enormous important and for the most trivial desires of our hearts—is undoubtedly true. That our prayers really matter in the working out of the details of the universe is also true, if somewhat incomprehensible.
Our prayers really matter, but they don’t limit God, nor are they necessary for his work. If we neglect a detail, he is not going to ignore what we meant in favor of what we actually said, or didn’t say. We do not need to micromanage God.
You must not imagine that the result depends on you. The question, as far as you are concerned, is whether you are to be honoured in having a hand in the work that God is doing, and will do, whether you help him or not. It shows no faith in God to make frantic efforts or frantic lamentations. — George MacDonald, Robert Falconer
*I suppose this is not the place for a joke about how this affliction especially qualifies him for his successful avocation of rock star.
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Ride on! ride on in majesty!
Thy last and fiercest strife is nigh;
the Father on his sapphire throne
expects his own anointed Son.
I love Ride On! Ride On in Majesty! for its profound overview of Holy Week. We sang it this past Sunday, to the Winchester New tune, and as always I was especially moved by the verse above. Last year I was inspired by those words to consider the effect of Good Friday on Jesus' parents. Today I am struck by the realization that Easter was not a surprise, nor an afterthought, nor a Plan B. In the drama of Holy Week, all scenes—from Palm Sunday through Maundy Thursday, Good Friday, and Holy Saturday—point toward the finale: Easter. The Author includes some dark, excruciating (literally) moments, but the triumphant last scene is never out of His sight.
Ride on, ride on, in majesty!
In lowly pomp ride on to die;
Bow Thy meek head to mortal pain,
Then take, O God, Thy power, and reign.
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Music is such a personal, touchy subject—as is worship. Put them together and you might as well be mixing sulfur, charcoal, and saltpeter. Nonetheless I will boldly go where too many have gone before, in order to draw attention to “Pop Goes the Worship,” an interview in Christianity Today (March 2011) with T. David Gordon, author of Why Johnny Can’t Sing Hymns: How Pop Culture Rewrote the Hymnal.
I wasn’t expecting much when I began the article (who writes these titles, anyway?), but was quickly drawn in. A sure way to my heart is to say what I’ve been saying myself, or wanted to say, only much better and with authority. The article is worthwhile in its entirety; here are a few excerpts to whet your appetite—or raise your blood pressure. [Emphasis in the following is mine]
T. David Gordon argues that modern worship choruses have trumped hymns in many congregations because for decades, we have been inundated with pop music—to the point that many of us don't know better. If you eat nothing but Big Macs, Gordon says, you will never appreciate a filet mignon.
Regarding church music, Gordon says, media ecologists should ask how music, "once a participatory thing, became a passive thing. What happens when people who used to sing folk music around the house are now surrounded by Muzak? How does that alter our sensibilities of music?"
Many are promoting an "aesthetic" that it is our duty to patronize living artists and not artists who are dead. Should we also not read books that are more than 50 years old, or enter buildings that are more than 50 years old? Christians aren't abandoning their buildings, and they haven't stopped reading Spurgeon or Edwards or Luther or Calvin. We haven't rejected other art forms that are not new. We've done so only with music.
Unless an individual chooses to listen to different kinds of music, the only thing that individual will hear (most of the time) is pop. Sure, one's sensibilities can be shaped deliberately, and many of us have developed tastes that we once did not have. (I spent years cultivating a taste for Brahms, whom I now love, and I spent about two years cultivating my appreciation for jazz.) If I did not believe that sensibilities could be cultivated, I wouldn't have written the book; it is, in some senses, a plea to shape them differently from the way commercial pop culture shapes them. But for people who do not take ownership of the cultivation of their sensibilities, other cultural gatekeepers will shape them for them—and in this case, they will shape them to prefer pop.
Unlike many people, I never dreamed of visiting foreign countries. I like being home. If I have family around me and good work to do, why should I go elsewhere?
Well, God clearly intended to broaden me a bit. Between having family now living overseas and the opportunities provided by Porter’s job, I’ve done a whole lot more travelling than I’d ever intended.
That’s a good thing—and not just because some of that travel has led me to valuable genealogical research opportunities. Most recently I was struck by how personal it makes world events.
The tragedy in Japan has more impact on me because we were there. Janet and Stephan each lived and worked in Japan for a year; we met Janet’s friends, went to her church, walked the streets of her town. That may be why this video struck me harder than the more spectacular footage. This is not where Janet lived, but it feels familiar, particularly the voice calling over the loudspeakers. That makes the impact hit home.
I used to wonder why churches sent youth groups on week-long missions trips. Sure, the kids do some good: painting, some minor construction work, brightening some children’s lives for a few days. It’s not that they don’t do work that needs to be done—but wouldn’t it be more cost-effective, and better for the community, to take the money spent sending American kids to places in need and instead hire local people to do the work?
I still think that would be a better use of the money, short-term. But who can analyze the future value of creating a personal connection between young people and another place, another culture, another way of life?
Study can help build that connection; I still feel tied to Ethiopia because of a mammoth project I did in elementary school on that country. But study and travel—if we can make it happen for our children, they and the world will be better for it. I know of nothing more likely to erase false images (both negative and positive) than actual interaction with real people in real places.